Think Twice About Self-control

Don’t Touch That!

How many times have you heard that statement growing up? “Don’t touch that!” Probably more than you would like to remember. We were often told not to touch or do something because we lacked the maturity and wisdom to decide for ourselves. When we reach adulthood, the command does not become obsolete it just comes from someone else, yourself. That’s self-control.

Sadly, when many folks do reach adulthood, they throw out that warning thinking that is real freedom. They have not yet realized the ability to control oneself is the evidence of wisdom and maturity.

We often think about self-control in the realm of what we eat, watch or spend. I’d like to introduce some other important areas. Let me introduce the three T’s.

Self-control in Thought: I cannot control the thoughts that come into my mind but I can control what I do with them. Will I entertain them or reject them? That should decide on the healthy outcome I can expect.

Self-control in Temper: this is the ability to subject my body, especially mouth, hands and feet to sensible thinking. How many hurtful things are said and done because of the loss of one’s temper?

Self-control with the Tongue: Words are like feathers on a doorstep. Once they are laid there you cannot get them back. Wisdom and maturity is knowing what to say, when to say it and how to say it. This will keep your regrets to a minimum.

There is an authority on the outside that governs our actions. But there is also an authority on the inside that, if allowed to govern your actions, you will discover true freedom. Outside authority is for the immature but inside authority is for the mature. Which one will you abide by?

Some Helps To Master Self-control.
1. Remember that you are responsible for your choices.
2. Expect your choices to bring consequences.
3. Consider the result of what you are going to say or do.
4. Develop your character so your true authority to do what’s right comes from the inside.

Today’s Quote
“Freedom does not come from having no rules. Freedom comes from abiding in the rules.”                                                                                             David P. Therrien

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Think Twice About Resentment

Is It Really Worth It?

Have you ever felt resentment toward someone or something? You know that it is not a comfortable feeling. It’s like a revolution in your stomach. But what is resentment? It is actually a measurement of a given situation.

The origin of the French word means “to feel strongly in any way where our sense of injuries is much stronger and more lasting than our sense of benefits.” I would call it a “silent retaliation.”

Granted, the situations that cause resentment are real, but do they have to give in to harboring injury over benefit? Who wants to live on a constant mental and emotional battlefield all day, every day? And like any battlefield, there are always casualties.

Picture this: A visitor, leaning on a fence, was watching an old farmer plowing with a mule which didn’t seem to know which way to go. The visitor commented, “I hope you don’t think I’m telling you how to run your business, but you could save yourself a lot of time and energy if you’d say, ‘Giddyap’ and ‘Whoa’ to your mule instead of just pulling and tugging on those reigns.” The farmer, drawing a handkerchief from his pocket and wiping his forehead answered, “You’re right. But this animal stepped on my toe five years ago, and I haven’t spoken to him since.”

Some Helps To Eradicate Resentment
1. Expect mental and emotional injuries to happen.
2. Plan ahead on how you will handle them.
3. Respond in a way that is healthy for you.
4. Do everything you can to be free from the weight of resentment.
5. Remember that you have also said or done things injurious to others.

Today’s Quote
“Resentment is like holding a hot coal. It only hurts the one holding onto it.”                                                                                                   David P. Therrien

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Think Twice About Quality

How Much or How Good?

When you consider the acquisition of something, which of these two questions do you seek to answer? How much will I get, or how good will it be? We are living in a day where quantity seems to supersede quality. We are always looking for a bargain. We look at the cost then we look at the amount. Do you go for the MEGA fries or MEGA drink hoping to get your money’s worth, or even getting over what your money’s worth on the company?

There is nothing wrong with trying to save some money on our purchases, but we have to be careful that we do not develop a pattern of quantity over quality. Even seeking quantity over quality with our food can be detrimental to our health. Obesity is often the result of those choices.

Let’s bring this into another arena of life. The work you do has a direct effect on your reputation concerning the kind of work you do, and it also affects the consumer. Of course you want to be known as someone who does quality work, who doesn’t? And you want what you produce to be of good quality as well.

Still another arena in life is in the realm of friendships. You can have many friends who may not prove to be friends at all. These are more likely to be called acquaintances. Or you can have a small circle of real quality friends who do care about you.

Perhaps it’s time to think twice about the choice of quantity over quality. MEGA fries and a MEGA drink can bring MEGA problems. Solomon talked about the value of having quality of life: “Better is a dry morsel and quietness with it than a house full of feasting with strife.”

A true to life illustration: An elderly gentleman worked as a carpenter with diligence and great precision. He explained why he spent so much time on each project: “I learned long ago that speed should always be secondary to quality workmanship. Years from now when I’m gone and people inspect what I built, no one will ask, ‘How long did this project take him?’ Instead, they will ask, ‘Who made this?’”

Some Helps To Choose Between Quantity and Quality
1. Consider the longevity of the thing.
2. How much value would you ascribe to it?
3. What will it look like after much use?
4. Does it represent the kind of person you are?

Today’s Quote “Quality means doing it right when no one else is looking.”                                                                                         Henry Ford

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Think Twice About Peace

Are You In or Out of the Storm?

What does it mean to have real peace? Does peace mean to be at ease because I am out of the storm, or to be at ease even though I am in the storm? Does the storm disturb peace? For many people it does. Perhaps because of where they get their peace.

Far too many people look out the window of their souls and then decide if they are at peace or not. If something causes them to worry, they forfeit their peace. If something is confusing, they forfeit their peace. If something looks dark and ominous, they forfeit their peace. That’s because they rely on outward circumstances to bring them peace.

If this describes you it’s time to think twice about where you get your peace. Real peace, steadfast peace, is found “in” the soul not outside of the soul. “How does that peace get into the soul?” you say. Peace in the soul is the result of a relationship, a very special relationship; a relationship with God. In that relationship you learn sometimes God calms the storm, and sometimes He lets the storm rage and calms His child.

God is greater than circumstances so His peace reigns over circumstances. Peace is really what most people, if not all people, are looking for. Surprisingly, most peace seekers never find it. But that’s not because it is not available. Peace is God’s gift to those who desire it.

Some Helps to Find and Keep Peace
1. Know that true peace comes from within, not from without.
2. Bring God into your life and He will bring His peace into your life.
3. Strength from Scripture will preserve your peace.
4. Outward trials give you the opportunity to live in God’s peace.

Today’s Quote
“You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in You.           Isaiah 26:3

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Think Twice About Opportunity

You Only Go Around Once

What do you think of the saying, “Opportunity only knocks once, so you better answer it”?  I am not sure about the first part but I am convinced of the second part, “you better answer it.” What is an opportunity? The normal or common definition is “a combination of favorable circumstances; a good chance or occasion to advance oneself.”

I want to challenge you today to think out of the box. Acting on favorable conditions is not necessarily the path to greatness. Try this one.

Opportunity is acting on what looks like an impossible situation. Rather than wait for the best, make the best out of what you have. Sometimes a problem is the catalyst for an opportunity. Our greatest inventions were the actions of people responding to life’s problems. Those problems were not ideal situations. Your life situations may not be ideal but they do not have to defeat you.

Maybe it’s time to think twice about how you see opportunity. Rather than waiting for it to come knocking in the midst of favorable conditions, perhaps it is better to see it as Thomas Edison saw it. He said; “Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.”

Some Helps To Making The Most Out Of An Opportunity
1. Change your view of what opportunity looks like.
2. Don’t wait for only favorable conditions, attack the problem.
3. See an opportunity as just that; an opportunity to draw on your resources.
4. Know the path to greatness is walked by those who head into the storm.

Today’s Quote
“A wise man will make more opportunities than he finds.”
Francis Bacon

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