Is It Really Worth It?
Have you ever felt resentment toward someone or something? You know that it is not a comfortable feeling. It’s like a revolution in your stomach. But what is resentment? It is actually a measurement of a given situation.
The origin of the French word means “to feel strongly in any way where our sense of injuries is much stronger and more lasting than our sense of benefits.” I would call it a “silent retaliation.”
Granted, the situations that cause resentment are real, but do they have to give in to harboring injury over benefit? Who wants to live on a constant mental and emotional battlefield all day, every day? And like any battlefield, there are always casualties.
Picture this: A visitor, leaning on a fence, was watching an old farmer plowing with a mule which didn’t seem to know which way to go. The visitor commented, “I hope you don’t think I’m telling you how to run your business, but you could save yourself a lot of time and energy if you’d say, ‘Giddyap’ and ‘Whoa’ to your mule instead of just pulling and tugging on those reigns.” The farmer, drawing a handkerchief from his pocket and wiping his forehead answered, “You’re right. But this animal stepped on my toe five years ago, and I haven’t spoken to him since.”
Some Helps To Eradicate Resentment
1. Expect mental and emotional injuries to happen.
2. Plan ahead on how you will handle them.
3. Respond in a way that is healthy for you.
4. Do everything you can to be free from the weight of resentment.
5. Remember that you have also said or done things injurious to others.
“Resentment is like holding a hot coal. It only hurts the one holding onto it.” David P. Therrien
Share an insight below where you relieved yourself of resent and how did that feel?
Next Time: “Think Twice About Self-Control.”